Summer is here and it’s the time of year that we get to spend lots of glorious sun-drenched days outside. It’s officially holiday season, which hopefully means trips to the beach. This time of year can throw up a lot of insecurities and anxiety for a lot of us. It can mean that our negative self-talk is cranked up to the highest volume. Summer can mean that the inner dialogue of self body shaming is in full force. Wether you’re a bikini-phobe or just suffer from that negative inner dialogue, here are a few things to try to stop negative self talk.
Make a New Mantra
Can anybody be ready for summer, you wonder, as you look at your reflection in the mirror. Indeed, wearing a bikini at the beach is all about body confidence, not body perfection. Nobody is perfect, and the fact that we’re bombarded with carefully photoshopped images in the media doesn’t help. Like an affirmation, an inner mantra has the power to transform the way we think, act and feel. If you’re current mantra sounds something like “I’m not good enough”, “I’m a mess”, “I can’t wear this”. It’s time to switch things up. Catch those negative thoughts as they occur and choose to push them along. Say to yourself “this thought does not serve me”, then focus on a positive mantra. Try “I am worthy of love”, “I can chose positive thoughts”, “I am strong”. Try the Gaia website for more powerful self-loving mantras, find the one that opens you up.
Focus on Fabulous
When your mind turns to those self-bashing thoughts, focus your attention on something fabulous. Look for the beauty around you. Look for the incredible things that your body can achieve. Focus on the fabulous in everyday that surrounds you. If you’re preparing for a trip to the beach and feel all kinds of anxiety and self loathing. Stop to celebrate your beautiful body and the joy you’ll experience when you arrive at the beach. Celebrate your curves and make the most of them, invest in a fabulous piece of tankini swimwear or a new hat. When you arrive at the beach make the choice to focus on the wind in your hair and the cool breeze against your skin. Choose to laugh and enjoy the moment. If those creeping negative thoughts reappear, remember your positive mantra.
Journal the Junk
Now, if your mind is working overtime throwing up all those negative thoughts. Grab your journal and dump it. Write out every negative thought as if your brain was talking directly to the paper. Journal that junk. When you see the words on paper, you’ll feel a disconnect and acknowledge that the negative inner dialogue is not serving you. Sit for a moment and meditate over your positive mantra.
Let’s make this the summer of self love, when we’re all just a little more gentle with ourselves.
‘Don’t forget to tell yourself positive things daily! You must love yourself internally to glow externally.’ -Hannah Bronfman