Often in life we get swept along helping others, neglecting to take take for our own self-care and personal development. Life Coach Kat Horrocks has created the Put Yourself First Podcast and dedicated her life to coaching women who have done just that. Kat Horrocks teaches women to say yes to themselves. I caught up with Kat to hear more about her coaching business and podcast.
On Becoming A Life Coach…
Q: When did you first feel called to become a life coach?
I’ve had a personal passion for self-development and goal setting for a long time. When I started to share that on my personal blog and noticed how much the simple tips I shared helped others, something started to click. I was feeling jaded by my previous business (bridal makeup) and felt like I needed to shift gears. So I invested in a business coach who supported me with that transition, practically and emotionally!
Learning to Say No…
Q: As a women’s life coach, what’s the most common issue you hear women facing?
Saying yes to everyone except themselves. Wanting to be everything to everyone, to be in 10 places at 1 time. Then after all that, beating themselves up about not making it to the gym or grabbing a drive-thru on the way home! We need to put ourselves first and be kinder to ourselves.
Q: What are the first steps you take to help overcome this issue?
If you’re prone to over-committing, never say yes straight away. Always say, “thanks for asking, let me check my diary” and let them know you’ll follow up ASAP. This gives you breathing room to check your diary, but also look at the wider context of your week. e.g. Yes, you might be free, but you know that’s the only afternoon you have without a meeting all week, and you need to get on with a bigger project.
“Don’t be afraid to set boundaries and be clear on when you are and are not free.“– Kat Horrocks
Maybe you can see that it’s a Tuesday evening and you’d promised yourself you’d go to yoga that night. It’s easy to say yes in the moment because it’s our learnt response, but having that buffer time allows you to be in control of your schedule. Don’t be afraid to set boundaries and be clear on when you are and are not free.
Q: Since setting up your coaching business have you seen the issues faced by women change?
I think social media makes life confusing! Within the space of 5 minutes, you can find completely contradictory advice…and not all of it is legit. Many of the women I work with have an all or nothing mindset, still searching for that magic pill – to career success, to health and happiness, to a great life. We can be vulnerable and easily influenced by something as simple as a photo on Instagram.
There wasn’t that level of intense influence on our everyday life decisions even a couple of years ago. Now other people’s routines, products, advice, ethos (all contradicting each other) is thrust upon us whenever we open our Instagram app. Making us question if what we’re already doing is good enough.
Put Yourself First
Q: As well as coaching you also host the Put Yourself First podcast, sharing inspiring conversations with badass women. Who have been some of the most inspiring people you’ve interviewed to date?
Such a hard question! I admire every single woman I’ve been able to interview.
Zara Khalique, founder of Keep it Bright, comes to mind because hers was recent. She built a business from her bedroom in her family’s council house. No savings, no investment, no money to splash on being a startup. And now she runs a global brand worn by the likes of Miley Cyrus and Ariana Grande. She’s a lovely, humble woman and I have so much admiration for her.
I also loved chatting with Nikki Hill, who educated our community on women’s health and how vital it is to balance the hormones in our body. People always mention her episode when I speak with them about the podcast, and I know it’s one that’s helped a ton of women including myself! Such a taboo topic too, I’m really pleased I get to share online and start a conversation about something so important.
Q: Who do you look to for inspiration? do you have any favourite blogs, books or individuals who always lift you?
I’ve followed Mel Wells for years and she continues to inspire me. Her books are fantastic if you struggle with dieting/body image and her Instagram is a great place to get some self-love and personal growth inspo (@iammelwells)
I’m a big podcast listener. I always tune into Gary Vee’s podcasts for business advice and (honestly) a kick up the arse when I’m not showing up for my business in the way I know I need to. He’s my first port of call for social media marketing advice and what I need to be focusing on.
When I’m switching off, I like to tune in to The High Low and Guys We F*cked. I never miss those two weekly shows and you can find me listening intently, cackling away to myself in the bath or driving in the car!
Big thanks to Kat Horrocks- Coach, Blogger, Host of #PutYourselfFirstPodcast @kat_horrocks