Most of us spend our teenage years growing into the body and the person that we think we will be for life, those years can be riddled with self doubt with our hormones ruling our heads. However, over the years we develop as individuals and despite evolving, there are times that those old niggles can creep back into our conscious minds. Life can be tough at times and often we are our own worst critics. Having babies, illnesses, accidents and other huge life events can test our resolve and fill us with self-doubt. Self-love and being confident in ourselves isn’t always easy, but here three ways we can all practise self-love this Valentine’s Day and beyond…
Give Yourself The Gift Of Learning
Sometimes it is easy to get caught up with life events, taking care of the children’s hectic schedules, taking care of the house, work, and general life we forget to touch base with ourselves and our dreams. We can quickly lose sight of who we are and what we want in life. Perhaps there is a number of hobbies that you had always wanted to take up? Get a notepad and your favourite pen and start writing about you. Make a list of your wildest dreams and the things you’d always wanted to achieve, places you want to visit..
Don’t focus too much on the how. Instead, think about what comes to the surface, the keys to self-love and confidence is having a strong sense of who you are. And that starts with taking a moment to assess every so often. Perhaps you always wanted to be a vet or maybe you always wished you’d studies a second language. We are lucky that now we can expand our knowledge on almost any subject by taking an online MBA class or by learning to knit via YouTube videos. All of those hobbies and things that we enjoy doing a huge part of our self-worth. It is important that we don’t lose sight of who we are and take time to invest in our own dreams and knowledge.
Unburden Your Mental Load
Something that many of us do is hold onto a lot of what doesn’t fit us anymore. We keep items that we don’t love, and we don’t use. This all takes up mental and emotional space. So it’s time to go through your wardrobe to keep only what fits and discard what doesn’t. You are perfect right now in the body that you have. That way the next time you pull out a pair of jeans you won’t be tempted to pull them up only to find that they still don’t come past your knees and then feel bad about yourself, beginning the spiral of negative self talk.
This doesn’t mean that you can’t eventually wear that size one day. But take away the pressure from yourself and don’t focus on things that don’t work for you. The same goes for cupboards, storage boxes, that drawer in the kitchen that you don’t want to deal with. Feeling confident is easier when you have less of a mental load. Decluttering can help that.
Drink Water And Sleep Well
Every journey has a starting point, and if you are not ready to start learning a new skill, and you are not quite ready to clean out that big cupboard then start with water and rest. Water and sleep are the simplest ways to practise self-love in your everyday. As soon as you start drinking more water, you’ll notice that you have brighter skin and clear eyes. More healthy hair and nails will follow.
Sleeping well will increase your energy levels. And when you have more energy, you can just do more with your day. Tasks become more difficult when you are tired and emotions tend to run high. So check out an app like Calm or Headspace. They both have guided meditation, and sleep stories to help you be more well-rested.
When you practise self-love you build your confidence. Much of what confidence really is, is taking care of yourself, getting back to the things that you love and enjoy to do and building them into your daily life.
The Fabulous Times