Firstly let me start by confessing that it’s taken me a little longer than expected to complete Quiet by Susan Cain (this is no reflection on the book) it is not for lack of trying, more my inability to stop myself from dozing off once I’m settled in my pj’s and reading in bed.
Without further a-do I’d like to share my thoughts on Quiet by Susan Caine and open up the discussion for those of you who may have read or be reading Susan’s book.
Quiet will be both educational and empowering for introverts. For extroverts this book will give you a deeper respect and understanding of your quieter counterparts. For Parents, Quiet by Susan Cain looks as fascinating studies that have been done to determine whether temperament is destiny and how to cultivate quiet kids in a world that can’t hear them.
Thoughts on Quiet by Susan Caine
It’s easy to see why Quiet by Susan Caine is a Sunday Times Bestseller, her in depth research and thorough voyage of discovery into the history of introverts questions if ‘temperament is destiny’ looking at the nature/ nurture of introversion from childhood and the role of introverts in todays society. Quiet is both intriguing, eye opening and unexpectedly empowering!
Susan Cain observes today’s culture and dissects the qualities that we admire in a ‘successful’ person. Part One of Quiet looks at the rise of ‘The Extrovert Ideal’ discovering how in 1920 popular self-help guides switched their focus from inner virtues to outer charm. This tipping point saw the birth of the extrovert-centric society we live in today where ‘personality is power’.
Quiet describes scenarios and situations that any introvert will identify with, like the gut wrenching fear of public speaking. Susan breaks down the reasons why introverts would rather die than stand in front of a crowd and give a speech or may often find themselves out of place in-group activities.
As a self-confessed introvert I found myself surprisingly reassured and dare I say it empowered by Susan Cain’s writing.
If you’ve ever felt crappy or angry at yourself for being quiet, softly spoken, sensitive, shy or socially awkward. If you’ve ever beaten yourself up (mentally) thinking you should have spoken out or questioned why you don’t work well in group activities or compared yourself to other louder seemingly more confident people then Quiet by Susan Cain is a must read.
Once you read Susans research and realize that society is tailored specifically to the extrovert the way you see situations will change. I found myself unexpectedly empowered knowing that I am naturally able to handle situations in a particular way and shouldn’t feel deflated if my methods are not the same as my extrovert peers.
What did you think of Quiet?